Errors in a relationship !!!

We all have come across several relationships in our life and the countdown is still going on. Some were long term, some were short. Even some were as short as mere one or two days. But one thing that was common in all these relationships was your expectations and demands towards the person sitting on the other side of the table. You may accept or deny it, but the truth won’t change as the person within you knows what actually the fact is. That person always expects something or the other from those involved in a relationship with you.

But as we all have entered into the modern era, the period where everybody tries to keep themselves busy with every other thing, shows less emotions and more practicality, things have changed a bit as per the outer look of yours is considered. But mark my words; things haven’t changed with the person within you. He is still the same and fears to change according to the time.

Those who are so called *Cool* persons, generally say that they do not expect or demand anything from their partners. They are just too cool to bother anything like this. They say they are ok with anything their partner does or say.  But I must say that the fact/truth is something else. They may show these weird kinda activities but their inner soul (which they pretend to be absent) knows what they actually feel.

Now, as we proceed in a relationship, we really don’t have a proper estimate of its longevity. But believe it or not we do have some expectations attached with it from the very start. Needless to mention, as we start knowing the other person we tend towards knowing more and more. At first, we always look out for the positive points bunking the ones which doesn’t go according to our mentality. That doesn’t mean we forget their negative traits, we do keep them in our mind and our heart does start expecting that very soon they are going to change as per our wishes.

These two stuffs are really unavoidable when you’re in a proper relationship, be it lover’s relationship or just a friendship. You just can’t ignore these facts. You expect him/her to talk to you, to go out with you, share your extremities (both happiness and sorrows), ask you about your well being, take good care of yours at times and so on. You demand time and presence from him/her.

This isn’t bad when kept within certain limits. But it starts hurting rather killing you from inside when it crosses its limit. Then on it will only give you pain when your wish isn’t fulfilled. You expect something and some other things take place. You see your partner doing stuffs that wasn’t planned by you. Up to a certain extent you will be able to cope up, but then after that your heart can break down into pieces.

 Your ego will prevent you from asking your partner, it will also prevent you from sharing your expectations to him/her. From then on, you won’t be able to stay like you used to be. You will fear to expect anything, but you will. Your heart won’t be under your control. But yes, your demands will get lessened. You won’t speak out your feelings, but your eyes will. And trust me; you will die every day from within.

Suppose one day our partner makes us very happy by doing some really great stuff, from the very next moment we start expecting that he/she will do the same every now and then. We forget that he/she did it out of his/her wish. It was simple love, and we should better not make it a duty for him/her.

There are also times when we badly expect our partner to stay with us or we expect time, be it physically or in the virtual world (Internet and Mobile). It may happen that yesterday they were with us in such period, but today they aren’t. Without getting hurt with this, we should better think of their situation and circumstance. Not being selfish, we should also care about their life. There may be some problem/work which requires more importance than our present scenario.

So expectations and demands are bound to occur when in a relationship, but only up to a certain extent they should be welcomed. Only a good understanding and trust between you and your partner can fight these issues well. Just enjoy the surprises and don’t think about their repetitions. Errors are meant to get ridden off with proper programming, right?

 Be well and keep well…!!! J