Errors in a relationship !!!

We all have come across several relationships in our life and the countdown is still going on. Some were long term, some were short. Even some were as short as mere one or two days. But one thing that was common in all these relationships was your expectations and demands towards the person sitting on the other side of the table. You may accept or deny it, but the truth won’t change as the person within you knows what actually the fact is. That person always expects something or the other from those involved in a relationship with you.

But as we all have entered into the modern era, the period where everybody tries to keep themselves busy with every other thing, shows less emotions and more practicality, things have changed a bit as per the outer look of yours is considered. But mark my words; things haven’t changed with the person within you. He is still the same and fears to change according to the time.

Those who are so called *Cool* persons, generally say that they do not expect or demand anything from their partners. They are just too cool to bother anything like this. They say they are ok with anything their partner does or say.  But I must say that the fact/truth is something else. They may show these weird kinda activities but their inner soul (which they pretend to be absent) knows what they actually feel.

Now, as we proceed in a relationship, we really don’t have a proper estimate of its longevity. But believe it or not we do have some expectations attached with it from the very start. Needless to mention, as we start knowing the other person we tend towards knowing more and more. At first, we always look out for the positive points bunking the ones which doesn’t go according to our mentality. That doesn’t mean we forget their negative traits, we do keep them in our mind and our heart does start expecting that very soon they are going to change as per our wishes.

These two stuffs are really unavoidable when you’re in a proper relationship, be it lover’s relationship or just a friendship. You just can’t ignore these facts. You expect him/her to talk to you, to go out with you, share your extremities (both happiness and sorrows), ask you about your well being, take good care of yours at times and so on. You demand time and presence from him/her.

This isn’t bad when kept within certain limits. But it starts hurting rather killing you from inside when it crosses its limit. Then on it will only give you pain when your wish isn’t fulfilled. You expect something and some other things take place. You see your partner doing stuffs that wasn’t planned by you. Up to a certain extent you will be able to cope up, but then after that your heart can break down into pieces.

 Your ego will prevent you from asking your partner, it will also prevent you from sharing your expectations to him/her. From then on, you won’t be able to stay like you used to be. You will fear to expect anything, but you will. Your heart won’t be under your control. But yes, your demands will get lessened. You won’t speak out your feelings, but your eyes will. And trust me; you will die every day from within.

Suppose one day our partner makes us very happy by doing some really great stuff, from the very next moment we start expecting that he/she will do the same every now and then. We forget that he/she did it out of his/her wish. It was simple love, and we should better not make it a duty for him/her.

There are also times when we badly expect our partner to stay with us or we expect time, be it physically or in the virtual world (Internet and Mobile). It may happen that yesterday they were with us in such period, but today they aren’t. Without getting hurt with this, we should better think of their situation and circumstance. Not being selfish, we should also care about their life. There may be some problem/work which requires more importance than our present scenario.

So expectations and demands are bound to occur when in a relationship, but only up to a certain extent they should be welcomed. Only a good understanding and trust between you and your partner can fight these issues well. Just enjoy the surprises and don’t think about their repetitions. Errors are meant to get ridden off with proper programming, right?

 Be well and keep well…!!! J

Human emotions – A stimulus

Blinking, we can never get ourselves free from this natural instinct. Unknowingly we do love to shut our lids, we like to rub them and yes, we do like to take a nap. Apart from these, we do close our eyes during high emotional moments. Some might notice it, some might not have bothered to care about it, but the fact is like giving a response to some stimuli, we all express our inner feelings to our very own self at first.

Its human nature, that one loves to express his/her happiness, sorrow, pain or any other feeling to oneself at the very first place. He does this by closing his eyes. While he closes his eyes, he gets this feeling of isolation. He feels that no one in this entire planet is able to notice him, his hidden grieves or emotions. He can thereby share his own sentiments and feelings to himself without being intervened by someone.

When in fear he closes his eyes, he thinks that the danger has got over. No one can harm him as nobody can watch him. In this case, he is actually telling his heart his story of fear. He is sharing it with himself. And this act slowly diminishes his fear and makes him stand up again.

When in distress he closes his eyes, he thinks that the act which made him sad is just not real. He starts imagining the reality as a dream. As nobody can see him in this state of mind, he feels damn free to rejuvenate himself. He silently shed tears while sharing his piece of story to his heart. And after sometime he feels so light and painless that he opens himself up in front of his closed ones and then on he is ready to move on with a smile on.

Again when in deep pain he closes his eyes, he thinks of his loved ones who may not be present with them but if would have been there with him, could have taken a good care of his. He just needs their words of care, touch of love and the feeling of being loved and cared. He shares his pain to his heart while closing his eyes, and after some moments he gets back to normal. Even though his pain may not have got lessen, but now as he has shared his pain to his heart, he knows how to withstand it.

Now these above circumstances were all related to sorrows and grieve. Now he, the human, also does the same sort of activities even when in extreme happiness.

When in love he closes his eyes, he thinks of his lover. He imagines himself along with his lover in a complete wonderland where there is only the two enjoying their cozy moments with each other. No rules and restrictions are there to prevent them from expressing their love for each other. Even while sharing his love story rather his true love feelings for her, he tells his heart even those things which he badly wants to express to his lover but just couldn’t make it possible. So while sharing this to his own heart he feel relaxed as someone other than his mind knows his actual condition.

And lastly when in super happy mode he closes his eyes, he thinks of the entire world happily singings songs and cherishing his joy. He may not have let anyone know about his happiness, but he just can’t stop sharing this to his heart. He let every single reason of his happiness get known to his heart and soul. He points towards reliving each and every moment so that even in distress, he never feels detached from joy.

There are many more situations when we do share our thoughts and feelings to our very own heart by just closing our mere eyes. We all like to hide ourselves from the entire world in any extreme emotional moment that we come across, but we rarely do notice it.

Your heart shares your part of story because it does care.

Love vs Infatuation

Due to a special request from someone close to my heart I’ve written this piece of comparison between love and infatuation. We come across them at a daily basis. Some love their friends, girl/boyfriends and others whereas some get themselves busy in infatuating certain people around them.

Well the following eleven points just came up in my mind while thinking about this topic. I’m obvious that these points are bound to create controversies and I’m definitely not correct with most of my points. This is just what I felt, do forgive my mistakes.

1. You will love to love your lover even if he/she breaks your heart but in case of infatuation you will fear to fall again.
2. Your love becomes the sole reason of your day long smile but when its infatuation, you believe in day dreaming rather imagining loads of realistic things.
3. Love can't happen with a mere glance of him/her, but with a single chat session infatuation may happen.
4. Love needs time to grow, the more you get to know your partner the more chances to fall in love with him/her, whereas infatuation works way faster than love.
5. Love is never volatile, but infatuation is very much volatile in most of the cases.
6. Love is unconditional; you don't expect your partner to work in accordance to your wish. but when its infatuation, as the day passes you discover your desire in changing some features of your partner.
7. Your love for someone can never be described in words, but the love that can be explained on papers is known as infatuation.
8. Love needs no qualities, it just happens but in case of infatuation there must be something that attracts you towards your partner that may be display features, charm etc.
9. When you love someone truly, misunderstandings are bound to happen. You're bound to feel lost, unattended and all and you feel free to share them all. But when in infatuation, even if you get hurt badly, you don't let him/her know about your feelings coz you fear to lose him/her.
10. When its love, you don't need to talk/meet all day long to maintain your feelings. Even if you don't share the same city, your feelings aren’t going to diminish. But in case of infatuation, even a small gap of communication can lead to separation.
11. You are bound to lose your heart in love, but in infatuation, you will definitely lose your mind.

These all are craps, bunk my mistakes. :P

But yeah, do give these points a chance of becoming a thought in your mind. :-)

Love ya all… J

Facebook vs Best Friend

Well in real life I never do compare my best friend with Facebook. Its only for fun I’ve thought all these following 11 weird points while comparing Facebook with one’s best friend. I hope you all will enjoy it.

1.  Your best friend may not know certain secrets of yours, but Facebook knows everything about you.
2.  Your best friend may forget some of your likings, but Facebook keeps the list of all your likings.
3.  Your best friends may not change themselves to keep you interested in them, but Facebook keeps    changing every now and then only for your attention and love.
4.  Your best friend might not care about other friends of yours, but Facebook makes a list of them, their likings their activities as well as their birthdays.
5.  The secret shared between you and your best friend might get leak, but in case of Facebook it’s highly secure.
6. There is no possibility that Facebook will fall in love with you; it shares a complete friendly relation. It doesn't have any expectations and demands from you.
7. Your best friend may sometimes get angry, behave rudely or stop talking to you due to lack of attention from your side. But even if you didn’t get online for days or months, then also Facebook will treat you like before.
8. Your best friend may feel jealous of you at a point of time, but there is no such issue with Facebook.
9. Your best friend may fail in publicizing or promoting your talents, but Facebook does it well.
10. Unlike your best friend Facebook is always available for you.
11. Your best friend might not ask you about how you feeling all the time, but whenever you get connected to Facebook, it keeps asking you *what’s on your mind?*.

All these eleven above mentioned points are just a part of my idiotic thinkings, it doesn’t have any connection with the truth. The fact is Facebook can never replace your best friend.

Love people not their profiles…

Girls vs Guys (Part 2)

My last note *Girls vs Guys (Part 1)* was completely based on friendship, but this one is in regards to the participation of both girls and guys in so called girlfriend-boyfriend (read love) relationship.

The relationship which I’m talking here doesn’t hold the casual relationships which we commit on a regular basis, but it’s more on the so called *True Love* type relationship between a girl and a guy. The 11 points which I’m going to mention may not hold much truth, but according to my experiences I’m expressing what I’ve learnt.

1. A guy feels a bit reluctant in accepting his relationship status whereas a girl dies to disclose it.
2. For a guy, friends are equally, rather more important than his girlfriend, but for a girl her boyfriend is everything she needs.
3. A guy will make lame excuses for not meeting but a girl will create loads of excuses just to see him once.
4. A guy usually find his partner to be boring/annoying after a certain period of time, but a girl will always found her guy to be interesting and attractive.
5. A guy hardly means/feels while telling those three magical words (yep…its *I Love You*), but a girl do feel.
6. For a guy, being romantic mostly means to have sex, but a girl has loads of imaginations/dreams attached with this *Romanticism*.
7. A guy may fail to speak for hours, but a girl has always plenty to talk with the man she loves.
8. A guy can easily express his love with the help of few words which may not be true always whereas a girl usually express her love with unspoken words.
9. For a guy, it’s easy to show his sorrow and dislikes but a girl believes in silence, sacrifice and adjustment.
10. A guy believes in taking revenge, but a girl mostly tends to forget his mistakes.
11. Guys may find their friend’s girl better than their own in terms of looks/understanding/adjustment/care/etc. But for a girl, her man is the best in this entire planet.

Well I’m mentioning it again that these points are completely based on my observation, it may be wrong also. Its only you people who can judge it in a better way. 

Love ya all…

Girls vs Guys (Part 1)

Well, I was thinking about what men can do and women can’t for quite a few days (obviously a movie effect :P ). And guess what? At last I got my answer which I’m going to share with you all.

I have seen as well as experienced loads of friendship with loads of people. And I can proudly say that the friendship that is shared between two guys can never (exceptions forbidden) be matched with that being shared between a guy and a girl or between two girls.

Well these are 11 common points which shows a guy is way better than a girl as far as friendship is concerned. It’s a general concept which I’m sharing, exceptions are definitely forbidden.

1. I have seen a guy crying for his friend; well I have also seen a girl crying for her friend, but a guy sheds his tears silently whereas a girl never cries sitting alone for her friend.
2. A guy never expects his friend to call/text him all day long, neither does he expects to get a reply from him instantly over the phone. A girl does expect. If their expectations aren’t fulfilled then quarreling is the next step she takes.
3. 10 days without a single talk, the friendship between two guys doesn’t get weak. But in 10 days, a girl can make another friend who can replace you.
4. Guys never put any boundaries or limitations for their friend, but a girl will always teach you how to live life *her way*.
5. A guy won’t inspect his friend’s loyalty, but a girl will do it, at every step.
6. A guy won’t fake in front of his friend, but there are lots of possibilities that a girl will fake.
7. A guy may borrow his friend’s money, but a girl doesn’t need to borrow it. They think his money is their very own and they have every right on it.
8. Two guys in deep friendship will definitely not fall in love (if not gay), but a girl falls for her guy friend if he has all the qualities she wants to be in her man.
9. A guy doesn’t expect his friend to be much caring and all, but a girl does.
10. A guy can share his friend with other friends, but a girl can’t.
11. And lastly, a girl can never be called as a *chaddi baddy*.

Well, my observations can definitely be wrong, I just wrote what’s on my mind. You all can judge it in a better way. Love ya all…

The tale of a mosquito...

Lil body I have
with wings and a tiny pin...
if ever I've annoyed you
forgive me my sin...

I suck on you...
being unable to help my hunger
if ever I've irritated you
forgive me my sin...

With your blood I do live
not much but few days I do
if ever I've diseased you
forgive me my sin...

Tiny stomach I have...
how much can I cover
if ever I had cost you
forgive me my sin...

Sometimes I may carry virus
but trust me its always unintentional
if ever I've deceased you
forgive me my sin...

But you kill my brothers
as well as sisters everyday
for your single drop of blood
you take our breathe away
have you ever asked for forgiveness?
ever felt sorry?

With less emotions
can feel more than you

in this cruel world
if ever I had been rude to you
forgive me my sin...

Issues in Life

Loads of issues, loads of problems…!!! No one responsible and no one to solve…We got to have our own balls to make every problem get solved smoothly…You better take your own decision rather than relying on somebody else…!!! Blame no one, its only you who is responsible for all the things that takes place in your life…Remember one thing, never regret in life …!!! Your decision wasn’t wrong…It was the best one according to you at that time…Your way of making your decision correct can be wrong though…So never lose hope, there are other ways also…Go for it…!!!

We have got one life…one life to live…!!! Few years have passed and few are left… None of you would ever want your life to become a venue of pain and sorrow…So why are you wasting your precious time being sad? Don’t you have the sense that the more time you spend being sad is the less time you get to stay happy? Change your routine, change your status…Change the fucking World around you…!!! Move out, freak out, and dance like you never danced…!!! Feel the essence of your life, mark your passion and go for it…Not much time left to fulfill your aim…

Sadness, depression and problems are the most attractive states…!!! Beware of them…These can eat up your happy go lucky life and can even turn it into a desert…!!! So run…run for life…!!! Smile without any reason, make weirdy looks…!!! Grab attention and make yourself feel special…!!! And I must tell you, you are special…Its just you haven’t realized your true talent…Give yourself some time…Think about yourself…Love yourself…!!! Loving yourself will make you love life…Spread love, shower love…That should be the motto of your life...