While sitting on a chair in the balcony under the full moon, a simple question strokes my mind. Is expecting “time” from your beloved ones wrong? The simple one word answer to this question would always be “no”. But this is not the one I want to hear.
Expecting time means expecting to spend a quality time, share a heartfelt conversation, sharing happiness as well as sadness. Expecting time means expecting to share a part of their respective lifes with each other, showing the importance of one person in another person’s life.
Sometimes it happens that the one whom you consider to be your loved one or your best friend don’t consider you the same. It hurts! But we need to be practical as there’s no such prerequisite conditions in friendship. One has his own choices and feelings. Someone once said to me, “You must keep one thing in mind from the very first day that friendship is not a give ‘n’ take relationship. You should not expect any customized responses from anyone. Let them be what they prefer to be”. At that point of time I didn’t really understood his saying, but now I can understand or rather feel what he wanted to convey. You must love your friends the way they are, not the way you want them to be. Otherwise it won’t be called a friendship rather it will be known as adjustment between you two.
But at the same time you must inform your friend about your feelings, about your desires and then if he/she does make any changes in themselves then it’s perfectly fine. That means your friend considers you an integral part of their life and wants you to be happy. Communication is the best solution to any misunderstanding or any other problem in a relationship. But you should never superimpose your desires on anyone; let them perform actions according to their wish.
So expecting “time” from your friend is not wrong. But you have to understand their situations if they don’t stand up to your expectations. “Time” is not the ultimate measure for your friendship. Problems are many but solutions are few. Search them until you succeed. So don’t give up, a ray of hope will rise in the next morning. Till then have a good night.
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